Are your possessions adding joy, usefulness and function to your life? Or are they sucking the life right out of you?
Owning something is an investment: an investment of your time, space, mental energy, and physical energy. Owning something means you need to acquire it, store it, insure it, and maintain it.
For a chunk of our stuff, ownership is a life-giving endeavor. We really use and enjoy this stuff. For the other chunk of our stuff, ownership contributes to how mentally and physically drained we are.
Think about the chunk of your stuff that is draining you. Are you even aware that it is dragging you down?
Two-thirds of your closet is packed with “that size” since you know you’re going to get back there one day. Are you thumbing through, crawling over, or crawling through mounds of seldom used clothes to get to the 15-30 pieces you wear weekly? Is two-thirds of your closet mocking you every time you open the door?
You’ve got some kitchen appliances/gadgets that are phenomenal for ONE particular and seldom used task. Are you fumbling through cabinets and drawers, reaching past and over these things that you need once every year or two, to get to the more functional items you use weekly or every day?
Okay, so you love shoes. You spend a lot of money on them. They are beautiful… and they are at the bottom of your jammed closet… or in your underbed storage… or in a pile in the corner. Do you have enough space to store them in a way that you can access them for wear? Or, do you faintly remember that you have an amazing pair of shoes that would exactly go with this outfit, but you don’t have the time it would take to locate them before you run out the door?
You have every electronic convenience known to man. You’ve located the piece of equipment you need. But, what with all these cables and cords and chargers and extensions and portables, you can’t remember what goes with what to make the darn thing work.
So, what’s a frustrated stuff owner to do? Baby Steps.
1. In whatever space you’re working on, (corner of the garage, kitchen cabinet, bathroom drawer, closet shelf, etc.), re-evaluate each item you touch in terms of its life-giving value to you.
2. If most of what you feel or think is negative toward an item, move it out of your space (donate, recycle, trash, or sell) as fast as you can.
3. Get the purged item to its destination within the week (within 48 hours is even better).
4. Note: if you discover some items that you don’t want to look at but you must keep (tax records, family heirlooms that will not be on display, etc.) and they don’t have to be readily accessible, research how to safely store them in your designated long-term storage area. Get these items out of your primary living space now.
5. Lastly, use this concept to evaluate every new item you consider bringing into your precious, finite space. If you make that decision carefully, you can cut way down on the time spent purging things later.
The secret to life-giving ownership is: purge your environment of the stuff that is draining you. Then, there is room to breathe, live well, and find everything you really love and use. You can do this.
“…Peace to you…” 3 John 1:14 (New International Version)

Am reading this while in my peripheral view, just a few feet to my right, is a closet which contains (this is just what I can see from where I'm sitting) five boxes of “important” stuff, winter clothes from many winters ago, a bag full of cassette tapes, a guitar, and approximately five pairs of worn-out jeans. There's a reason for keeping all of it. But are they all valid reasons? Probably not.
One box contains silver knick-knacks purchased by a godfather that I never knew. You know, the silver cup engraved with my christening date, a silver toothbrush, silver brush & comb set. Can't get rid of them because they have some sentimental value (Do they really? I didn't know the guy.) and they have some economic value. But why do I store them in a box instead of displaying them?
Another box contains all my stuff from when I was in Spain: Notes from the classes I took. My grades. Newspaper articles describing the “pasos” of Semana Santa. A candy wrapper from my favorite chocolate bar so that, in case I ever go back, I can buy it again.
Let's talk about the winter clothes. While I don't have the disposable income to buy this season's clothes, I do like to at least attempt to be a tiny little bit “in style” when I can. Therefore, I will never wear these clothes again. But – I can't bear to part with them because I'm practical and there's absolutely nothing wrong with them. Some poor soul would be happy to have them. But how often do those poor souls come to my spare bedroom to get what they need? Hmmm…… probably should box them up and donate them to Goodwill.
And five pairs of worn-out jeans? Sure, it's good to have a pair for painting or working in the yard in the winter time. But one pair. Not five. Oh yeah, and I already have another pair or two in my master bedroom closet.
Yep. It's time to let go of some of this life-draining stuff. Thanks for the encouragement.
Go, Shondi, Go! You're doing great. Keep us updated on your progress.
Tina Bonifacio, Organized By Tina
135 Burton Road, Savannah, GA 31405-9425
912-657-9605
TinaBonifacio@comcast.net
http://www.OrganizedByTina.com
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